HOW TO RESOLVE ISSUES 

 

What happens when a husband has the sex drive of a race car and his wife has the sex drive of a snail??? In other words, his sex drive is high and her sex drive is low. As you can probably imagine, this was a sore spot between many Christian couples and below is a path to finding a resolution.

 

While this sex issue is common among married couples, there are other reasons why sexual intimacy in marriage can suffer. Those reasons include having unresolved marital problems, not making sex a priority, and simply becoming bored with the same old routine.

 

If any of these problems occur, you may find yourself stuck in what we call “The Sex After Marriage Rut.” The good news is that this “rut” can inspire you to make things better. The bad news is that if you ignore it, it can become a catalyst for bigger problems. We call those bigger problems covenant killers. The reason we call them covenant killers is because they have the potential to destroy a marriage.

 

Covenant killers that can manifest when sexual intimacy in marriage is not healthy:

• Emotional Disconnect

• Lust

• Feelings of Resentment

• Feelings of Rejection

• Infidelity and

• Pornography

 

The fact is, God ordained sexual intercourse as a way to foster unity in marriage, which means it has the power to create intense emotional and spiritual bonds between you and your spouse. But sex is so intense that it also has the power to cause a complete melt-down of a marital relationship.

 

How to avoid covenant killers and keep sexual intimacy in marriage healthy…

 

1. Understand Your Differences

Understand that God created men and women differently where sex is concerned. Your wife is not unusual when compared to other women, and neither is your husband — The two of you are just different.

 

2. Don’t Be Selfish

Get out of the “It’s all about me” mentality and begin to place the needs of your spouse above your own.

 

3. Forgive Past Sins

Resolve any lingering issues in your relationship that have not been dealt with properly.

Certainly, that’s not all there is to it, but it is a good place to start. By doing these three things, you will experience a true surrendering to Christ which will lead you to that mysterious, but beautiful place of “Becoming one flesh” in Christian lovemaking.